Are you a slave to your unconscious mind?

Your unconscious mind is more powerful than your conscious mind and you can unknowingly be a slave to its negative beliefs, thoughts and emotions. Thankfully, a number of methods can reveal these so you can release them. While most are advanced techniques, here I describe a fun and easy one so you can make an ally of your unconscious mind rather than being its slave. Thanks to Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung we all know that there is a part … Continue Reading →

Want less pain? It’s a matter of choice

There’s a cultural story we tell ourselves, that we are helpless victims of other people’s actions and external events – weather, the stock market, redundancy, etc. But what if this were not true and we actually had a choice as to whether we allowed ourselves to feel harmed? In modern psychology, the theory goes that we are born into this world as perfect, innocent children and then become corrupted by the world. So therapy becomes a rehashing of all the … Continue Reading →

How to let go of a bad relationship, with love

It’s easy to respond to people’s attacks on you with anger and defensiveness. But it’s possible to train yourself to respond with love instead. While this is not easy, the peace you will experience is well worth the effort. When things are going well it’s easy to feel peaceful and loving. But painful experiences test what we’re made of. I was happy to realise recently, after a difficult experience with a friend, that I’m now made of tougher and more … Continue Reading →

Are your judgements blocking your happiness? Part 2

If you want peace at home and work, it’s important to honestly look at where you’re judging others. Only by seeing that they are just like you and withdrawing this judgement will you experience lasting happiness. Withdrawing judgement is the definition of forgiveness. I recently started reading a book by an Indian mystic named Osho whom I have been meaning to read for a long time. The book* takes a look at Jesus and what he was really saying – … Continue Reading →

How to lift your productivity by doing less

In the Western world, the values of production, materialism and consumption have served us well in terms of raising living standards. But our excessive focus on ‘doing’ has led to imbalance – we no longer know how to just be, even feeling guilty if we’re not being productive. There is energy and wisdom in being so if you want to be more Zen at work it’s time to reclaim this valuable state of mind. A few years ago I took a six-month … Continue Reading →

2 simple exercises to get control of your mind

You may think that in order to get control of your mind you have to become a Buddhist monk and meditate in the mountains of Tibet for 5 years. But this is not the case at all. In fact, a big, noisy city is a great place to learn because if you can control your mind there you can control it anywhere. Getting control of your mind requires you to be vigilant about your thoughts and emotions. While this takes … Continue Reading →

9 tips to make a big decision, not a big mistake

Some decisions are huge and can literally change your life. In this post, I give you 9 creative techniques to help your decision-making so that your big decision doesn’t become a big mistake. Some techniques engage the right side of your brain to access your creativity and intuition, while others engage the left side of your brain to access your analytical and practical side for balanced decision making. At some point in your life you would have been faced with … Continue Reading →

Employee engagement mistakes and how to fix them

Quality research into employee engagement has been around for decades. Despite this, leaders continue to do things that disengage their staff. This blog post looks at some common manager behaviours that lead to disengagement and gives examples of how a simple shift in perspective can help leaders view their actions in a new light and retain their people’s valuable skills.During my career I have spent 4 years working in small organisations and over 15 years working in medium and large … Continue Reading →

6 steps to create a growth mindset and thrive!

Stanford University Psychologist, Carol S. Dweck has uncovered a concept that can either help your life be happy and fulfilled or dramatically decrease your success and enjoyment of life. Cultivating a growth mindset and kicking your fixed mindset can make all the difference.  Carol S. Dweck, a Stanford University Psychologist, has researched achievement and success for decades. She uncovered a concept that has the power to significantly increase our success and happiness, that of fixed and growth mindsets.Stanford University Psychologist, … Continue Reading →

Self-awareness: the first step to compassion

Compassion helps you increase your peace of mind, improve your physical wellbeing, gives you emotional strength and reduces your chances of being a dumping ground for other people’s baggage. There’s a funny thing about us humans – we don’t like to hold onto negative ideas in our unconscious minds. So we look around and find the nearest person who is willing to carry this negativity for us. In psychological terms, two common processes of pushing our negative thoughts and beliefs … Continue Reading →